About Sam from Jolie

By Jolie

Hi. My name is Jolie and I met Sam at Preschool Family at age 3. Instantly I found her to be one of the most generous, caring and friendly people that I have ever know.  Our relationship blossomed over the years and Sam became one of my closest friends. Since we didn’t attend the same elementary and middle schools, we couldn’t see each other as often as we liked, but we loved texting each other and had so much fun taking theater camp together during the summers.

Sam was able to make conversation and connect with everyone. Whether you had seen Sam yesterday or two months ago, she was overjoyed to see you and together you could pick up where you last left off. She also had a great sense of humor and an infectious smile. Everyone loved her – kids and adults alike. Sam put others before herself and never hesitated to help those in need.

Sam, like the rest of her family, was very generous. She was always volunteering herself and her things to others. Once my family and I were at Sam’s house. My little sister was playing with a doll and when it came time to leave, my little sister didn’t want to part with it. Sam let her keep the doll, even though it was one of her favorites.

While I shared many fun times with Sam, one of the best memories I have was of our beloved summer tradition of AMT. AMT (standing for Ana-Maria Theatre) was a week of fun at the Howards’s house, during which we wrote a play and Ana-Maria directed it. The shows always turned out so great and I cherished being able to spend so much time together. This is a tradition that I will miss dearly.

Not only was Sam a lot of fun, she had a love of sports and theatre. She worked hard to do her best, always with a smile on her face. In honor of Sam and her passion for softball, I and the rest of my teammates on the Palo Alto Heat will be wearing a patch with Sam’s name and jersey number over our hearts to the State Championships this week.

Sam was a unique and special person and I am truly lucky to have been her friend. I miss you Sam and will think of you often. May you rest in peace. Thank you.

About Sam from Umbher

by Umbher

Hi. My name is Umbher. I met Sam when I was three. We were both in the same preschool class. We have been friends for eight years. When I found out about this accident I was heartbroken, how can such a loving and caring family pass away?

Over the eight years that I have known Sammy she could always put a smile on my face, no matter what. Sammy always made me feel happy and cheerful when I was around her.

What I had admired about Sammy was her kindness. She was so very friendly and kind to every one. Whenever someone needed help she would be the first to jump up. Sammy would always put others before herself.

I have so many great memories with Sammy, once when we were 5 or 6 we were all playing in the car with the car keys and someone pressed the lock button. So after we were done playing Sammy went to open the door but then the car alarm went off and the parents came running in and then they all started laughing then they finally opened the car and let us out. Sammy will always have a place in my heart and I will never forget her.

About Sam from Nooran

by Nooran

I know everyone grieves the death of this wonderful family, and I could talk about all of them, but I am here to talk about Samantha Howard. Hi, my name is Nooran and I have known Sammy for eight years. I was so shocked when I found out what had happened. They were like family to us and did not deserve to die like this.

Sam was the most loving girl I knew. Whenever someone needed help she was the first one to jump up and run over. She always cared about other peoples’ feelings and if anyone was sad, frustrated, or mad she would talk to them and they would come back happy with a big smile on their face. When we were at school this little kid fell over and she rushed over to help. She always went out of her way to make people happy.

The thing that I loved the most about Sammy is that she is always there for you. If you needed help or anything, she would do it before you had even asked. I admired her, she was full of fun and made me laugh all the time.

I think Sammy was a special girl and it is devastating how her life was cut short. She always made people feel special andyou connected with her straight away. She just made you want to become her friend. Everywhere we went she had a bounce to her step and would say hi to everyone. She could start up a conversation about anything and you couldn’t help but join in.

My favorite memories with Sammy were when we took all the great vacations together. We went RVing to Utah and Death Valley. We also went to Sea Ranch with them. On our RV trips, we would have one walkie talkie in one RV and the other one in the other RV and would talk to each other constantly. I loved our trips, and I will miss that a lot.

Sammy was always trying to help people and she always succeeded. She was so busy, but she started every new activity with a positive mind. She and her family lived their lives with great passion, and they have inspired me to be like them. You were a great friend, Sammy, and I will always remember you in my heart.

About Sam From Elise

By Elise

Baby Sam and Ana-Maria

I have known Sam since I was six months old and she was only four months. We became best friends very quickly. Our friendship flourished for many years. She was always really bubbly and happy. Everyone she knew couldn’t picture her upset. When she was upset she would tell me and if she hadn’t told me I never would have guessed. Whenever we both felt bad she would always take care of my concerns and me first. For example, once I needed finish a report and she had some homework. Being the extremely nice person she was she offered to help and I was able to finish my report. Sam was not only bubbly, but she was also friendly. She would walk onto class with a smile on her face and say hi. Her smile would spread and everyone would return her greeting. Once she told me she could make friends with everyone and I couldn’t argue. The characteristics she had helped her make friends.

Sam and her friend

Her characteristics included her being outgoing, funny, and helpful. Although she was outgoing, she didn’t make you feel uncomfortable. She made you feel welcome and wanted. The most important characteristic was she always found the good in people. She argued that everyone had a good side. We have so many memories together almost twelve years of them, but one I believe shows she is helpful, kind, and cares for others. This is a memory of the time Sam found my dad’s wedding ring. My dad had lost his wedding ring and had no idea where it was. A few months later, Sam came over and we were playing catch in my backyard when she spots something shiny, then she calls me over. She picks it up and shows me. She thinks it’s costume jewelry. I know it’s my dad’s wedding ring. I tell her, and her eyes go big. We run in the house screaming, “We found your wedding ring!” My dad is overjoyed and tells her he owes her. Big Mistake. She has been holding it over his head forever. I miss Sam and that will never change. She has been my best friend forever. I will never forget her or her family. Thank you.

More About Robert

I  am John Howard and I am one of Robert’s brothers. The pieces of Robert’s life I want to talk about are his devotion to his family, his friends, and his work.

Robert was a great dad!

Robert was a great dad.

I can picture countless times that Robert would stop by our house on his way out to Saturday excursions with the girls loaded in the back of a bike trailer, his Suzuki, or his car. They were usually headed to a park or some other outdoor place. That was his special time with them and he really loved it.  Sam and Nica told Robert they were interested in motorcycling a month ago.  Robert borrowed two minibikes from my sister’s family.  I stopped by and gave him a youth helmet for Sam.  When I arrived late in the evening, the bikes (which hadn’t been started in years), were not running.  I thought “Hmm, hard to believe this trip is gonna happen tomorrow.”  The email from him the next night said the trip was a wild success.  He’d stayed up late into the night.  Disassembling the entire fuel system and rebuilding it.  He could fix anything and nothing was going to make him let down the girls.

He loved having kids in part because he stayed a kid. Robert loved creating and having a creative “builders” home was in his DNA.  Those of you who know Howards know that we are packrats. Ana-Maria was working on him, trying to pare down the stuff. One sticking point was the number of Legos. Robert wanted more in his, I mean the girls’, stash.  My daughter, Amanda, told me this week that  he would buy new kits and slip them to her having her mix them in when she was babysitting.  Thus the Lego pile grew.  Wherever they are Ana Maria just gave Robert “THE LOOK”.

Robert became a consummate PTA dad.  Volunteering in class and hosting an annual 4X4 excursion auctioned off each year at El Carmelo’s silent auction.  And, of course,  schlepping and setting things up for Ana-Maria’s art and volunteer events.

Another 4x4 Adventure

Robert was a true friend!

He was part of a really tight group of guys right out of high school — they are still tight. They are here today. Four of them gave each other nicknames to make them sound more cool. One of them was named Bond.  Robert intended to call himself Rutger after Blade Runner’s Rutger Hauer.  They contracted Rutger to Rat and so he was to them these last 30 years. Rat would host parties in his first home on the flight path to Moffett field during the air shows.  We’d watch the shows sitting on the roof.  In the fifties his house had been hit by a Navy jet and rebuilt.  For one of the shows they made a Papier Mache Jet tail-section and mounted it on the roof.  He always felt safe there because as he said: “This house was pre-disastered!”

For Robert, anything longer than a weekend meant a trip out of town. He would constantly go on for four-wheel driving adventures or pack up the camper with the family and their stuff and take off. He joined a group of my friends on an annual Fall camping trip to desert hot springs. Robert introduced us to new secret places that he had found in his own adventures.  It was on one of these trips that he took me 4 wheeling.  After three hours of being alternately thrown against the dash, passenger window, and roof I told him I wasn’t getting the appeal.  He stopped at the top of a steep, stair cased descent.  Looked over and said.  “Here, you drive it down.”  I was hooked.  I bought another Samurai and the two of us had several adventures as we progressively fixed it up.

Robert was a Builder, Teacher, and Engineer

Robert was a builder.

Robert was a gifted designer, craftsman, and engineer. Robert could design and build anything.  And chances are he’d have the material in his vast array of “extra parts”.  In High school he modified a moped to be a cafe racer.  Complete with fairing and dropped handlebars.  Later in life, he continually modified and optimized cars and houses to meet his exacting ideas.  No one I knew could do it better and I have no idea where he found the time.

He and I worked at Apple at the same time and he was considered “one of the creative ones”.  Robert also became a talented manager and was called into save several programs.  He loved design and designing.  At work he worked closely with the engineers and created a fun  team environment.  While going through his files the other day I found a note from  Jean-Louis Gassee, an early Apple Executive VP, congratulating Robert for his work on an Apple project.  How this was exactly the kind of innovation needed and to keep up the good work.  Robert wrote Jean-Louis back, “Thank You.. and that’s very nice of you…, but I really thought it was a team effort.” He was humble and always acknowledged those around him.

Robert was an engineer.

He spent the last 15 years at Lunar. You know how almost everyone grouses about their job at some point or another? I never heard him say a bad thing about it. It seemed to fit like a glove. His colleagues there told us this week that Robert could listen well and was nice, but he was also extremely rational and could think things through and bring analytic skills to play. Through Apple, Lunar and teaching at Stanford he played a key role in mentoring many young engineers.

Robert was funny!

Robert with the cigarette-smoking baby.

In a family full of people who fancy themselves as funny and a Silicon Valley full of clever people, Robert stood out. It was what you noticed first about Robert.  He had a wicked sense of humor. He was faster than the rest of us. He could hit a joke before you realized you had an opportunity.  A night out with Robert was going to be a night of humor and insightful irreverence.

Final Thoughts

I have been thinking about us coming here today. We want to know that their lives had meaning — that they will live on. Robert lived a life with few regrets. He concentrated on the important things: family, friends, creating, teaching, and learning. I can promise you  that Robert lives on in our memories; in the work lives of everyone he mentored and worked with; in the terrific products he was part of bringing to market; in the inspiration he provided to be a good husband and father; and in the humor that still rings in our ears.

I love you and will miss you, Robert.

John and Robert on a camping trip. The photo was taken automatically, using a timer Robert brought.